A Simple Little Thing Called Love

Love is like the most amazing of all things, more so because the way it hits you right across your face and makes a blabbering idiot out of even the most impervious of us, is a feat which nothing else, with a probable exception of alcohol, could ever match. I think much more than anything it is our heart which deserves the credit for beating or skipping a beat or two at just all the right moments and with just all the right persons and still being able to pump blood like clockwork, really what an amazing pumping organ our heart is. Well, they just won’t call something the seat of human soul for nothing but this entire litany regarding heart and it’s mysteries notwithstanding, I sometimes wonder if any of us actually get to know what love is or is that we simply go onto accept whatever definitions that have been given for it so far? Well one thing that I have learnt about love is, the amount of grey in your hairs is rarely of any consequence when it comes to these matters of heart because very few of us are actually left with any hairs owing to this global market slowdown and perhaps also because once we start to grow with our life we become like bundles of accumulated histories, overflowing with our knowledge about everything which doesn’t work and everything that isn’t love that sometimes we end up complicating what happens to be the simplest of all emotions.

Remember the time when we were young and would fall in love so easily and at that instant all that mattered was being in love because being in love seemed to be all the more meaningful and believing in love seemed to all the more believable. Talking of childhood, I remember my friend telling me about her belief that kids like chicken hatched from eggs and hers was a dancing egg because she used to dance quite a lot. She did went onto hold this belief right up till eight grade when probably a health education book got better of her but nevertheless it was easier for her to believe because her theory was so simple as compared to my belief that kids were dropped from heaven straight into a hospital yard with parachutes tied at their backs. Clearly it didn’t took long for my theory to go bust more so because my mom failed to produce the parachute that I came with and really with the amount of preconditions and incredibility that like fine print were attached with my belief it was like a pile of dry leaves, waiting for a wind to blow it away. 

This is exactly what we all do to love, we never let it be, we just go on to complicate or I dare say pollute love with all our inhibitions and beliefs or unbelief’s. I just can’t understand mankind’s obsession with untangling everything, why can’t just we accept something’s which are beyond us? I know to think is one of the most fundamental of human prerogative but there are times when you have to let things be for you are only acting as a deterrent by exercising your brain cells but if had it been this easy to detach this jelly inside our head, we for sure would have had a lot to live for in this life.

Finally, given my ignorance and the fact that my college has been closed, I could still feel a preponderance of love in each of the breath I take so much so that I am beginning to wonder if the air around our town has actually gone cleaner but then isn’t it what that happens each year right around this time. I think St. Valentine couldn’t have chosen a better time to die or whatever that he did and really valentine’s day or otherwise it would do all of us a lot of good if we could let that beating and pumping organ decide for us.

Love and All That has been Said

Love is the most diaphanous of all emotions more so because I don’t really know what the thing which makes you transparent is known as but that apart love is a kind of emotion which shows through everything be it the springs in your feet or the stupid smile that plays on your face the whole day. Love just finds its way to creep into every corner and fill every crack and space, there isn’t probably a thing which love may leave untouched and it has a tendency to make even a simple walk along the park seem like something more than simple. If my beloved friend is to be believed love is more like an endless Christmas which people in love celebrate almost every day but then even Christmas isn’t what is used to be especially after the truth about Santa Claus, outsourcing his job to some toy factory in China, came out. Love is more of a virtue than an emotion and I think and like my 10^th grade English Literature book said like every other virtue such as honesty or truthfulness, love is pretty much easy to lay but just a few drops of cold water and a gentle brush with reality is all it takes to bring all your preconceived notions tumbling back.

So what is love then is it as Dr. Deepak Chopra proclaims, a constitution of five stages of which I only remember the last one and that is sex or is it something more profound, something which cannot be found in books of literature? I think love is something more personal and each of us has our own way of loving, we have to give our definition for love and more importantly believe in those definitions. Like for me love is when the answer to “Am I in love” comprises of just a single image instead of the usual slideshow of faces that plays around my mind. In this world chances to find love are few and far in between and it doesn’t pay well to engross yourself in a book selling idiosyncrasies of some modern day seer when the love of you have been searching for is about to disappear along the next bend or corner of this life.

Love is really diaphanous or transparent, you may actually look right through it and may never know but there is someone who always knows whether it’s the air or your rose colored glasses which have made this world seem all the more prettier and that someone is the tiny little voice inside of your head. Do we get a second chance when it comes to finding love, well I don’t know for I am really waiting for my first but like a thousand before me must have said about love being elixir of life, so just open yourself and accept whatever love you can find. You may not get what you are looking for but then no one knows what they are looking for and really why not make the best of what we have rather seeking the happiness which we may never find. I know what I am saying goes against the basic dictums of taking risks in life but then haven’t we scalded ourselves enough by trying to live up to the prophecies of these new age Armani clad soothsayers.

Finally, try spreading love and not just because it’s Valentine’s Day but because love begets love and really this world could do lot better with another few billion doses of it and this is a piece of advice for all my fellow Indians who plan on hanging out with their beloved this valentine’s day, do carry a divorce lawyer in your tow because returning home married and that too forcibly on a roadside by people proclaiming themselves to be the custodian of Hindu tradition, isn’t probably the best way to scare the life out of your parents.

The Year of Valentine

Valentine’s Day is coming, yet again and just like every other year I find myself in a similar situation, hopeless and single. Well, I would have won each time but if only they have a prize for people who almost always end up getting themselves dumped and that too right before valentine’s or any other day, especially the days when you really need someone to hold you close and kiss your loneliness away. Not that valentine’s day or any other day holds any importance for when you are single each of the days appear to be similarly excruciating but sometimes when you see each of those committed fellows losing their sleep and temper, the prospect of going to sleep alone doesn’t appear all that revolting then. Love isn’t what it used to be or rather it isn’t what all those mushy greeting cards promise to be for one it isn’t something eternal because had it been so we would be celebrating valentine’s day all the year around and secondly, do we actually know what love is and is a teddy bear with a small heart in his lap a perfect mascot? I never could actually understand why teddy bears are white, when in reality they are black and fearsome and why they are called teddy bear and why not polar bear which at least are white though calling them that will also not make them any less ferocious. That apart, I don’t think a person would become more acquiescent or more agreeable and a refusal hurts just as much as it will on any other given day so is this day just for people who already are in love or does it have anything for the vast single populace as well. If it does have something in hiding for the unfortunate few then I am damn sure my college people and our so called elite leaders would have already killed it and seeing the way they respond to anything cross-sexual, I am often intrigued about their propensities, what is that do they expect us to be, homosexuals?? And if we turn out to be that even then would they let us in peace?? People or rather society has always been against love, perhaps because they were afraid of something as potent and poignant as love, they were afraid if left to itself love will conquer all and would asunder each thread which goes into fabricating this social architecture. That is why, perhaps they came up with this safety valve of a tradition, let people have one day when they can celebrate and do all that they want to do in the name of love. I am not against valentine’s day but I am against commercializing and using 14th of February as a day for love for if we really care for love then why not celebrate a valentine’s month or a valentine’s year for that matter and why this day has to be about paramour’s only, is the love we have for our parents or friends not love enough? Well, if you would have already gathered I won’t be going out this valentine’s day more so because in this time of recession micro waved popcorns and downloaded free movies appear to be all the more enticing and probably when all the excitement had died down, I will sit and call each of my friend and family and tell them about the love I have for them for recession or no recession these are the people who will always be with me. Finally if you really intend on making your move this Valentine’s Day then do it on the day after for once all the anticipation has died down and when all the single people have reconciled once again with the loneliness in their lives then probably you have a chance to become a knight in shining armor or a princess who kissed the toad. Will this work, I am not sure for reconciliation may bring about an acceptance for one’s fate and really we may be single but not necessarily desperate but if it works then you could at least 2 have days when you can celebrate love and that too in conjunction.